Sunday, October 31, 2010
anak memang pembawa rejeki batin...
Want it to last? Have children
By P. Selvarani
LONG-distance marriages are more likely to survive the test of time and distance when couples are grounded for practical reasons, such as sharing finances, owning a house and having children.
"People get married because they are drawn to each other but love and romance alone will not necessarily sustain the marriage. There are other factors that compel couples to stay together, such as having children or sharing ownership of a house. And these are the things that will keep couples together when things get tough and the love erodes," says marriage and family therapist Dr Johnben Loy Teik Cheok.
He says couples would find it more stressful living apart if the marriage was purely based on love and romance rather than for practical reasons.
"What is there to keep them together if there is not much talking, sexual relations or planning for a future together? When there are less factors that hold them together, then the greater the chance of the marriage failing."
While it may be more challenging to maintain long-distance marriages in this day and age, Dr Loy says Asian families of a previous generation were able to handle the situation better as they were more focused on their respective roles.
For instance, the wife would be living in a country where her children are studying while the husband is in another country attending to his business.
"They focus on their respective roles where the mother is there to take care of the children while the father works to support his children's education. Back then, it was survival-based and they had a more practical and long-term outlook in their marriage."
Consultant psychologist Dr Edward Chan believes effective communication is crucial to the survival of any marriage, especially a long-distance one.
The communication, he adds, must be of quality and quantity as the wrong communication technique would worsen an already strained relationship.
He says at least 50 per cent of couples who live apart have communication issues.
"When they do not know how to communicate constructively, support each other emotionally or empathise with each other despite a difference of opinion, then it could lead to conflicts which could eventually cause the marriage to fail."
Read more: Want it to last? Have children http://www.nst.com.my/nst/articles/kn31spjohnben-2/Article#ixzz13wAbzJsM
bodoh bila berbini sekor jer...
Oleh Nor Fazlina Abdul Rahim
nfazlina@bharian.com.my
2010/10/31
Pasangan didakwa sering bertengkar
KUALA LUMPUR: Tindakan seorang lelaki memanjat balkoni di tingkat 36 sebuah kondominium untuk memujuk isterinya yang mengurung diri dalam sebuah bilik membawa maut apabila dia terjatuh di Brickfields, di sini jam 8 pagi semalam.
Mangsa berusia 30-an warga Indonesia mati di tempat kejadian selepas cedera parah di kepala dan badan.
Ketua Polis Daerah Brickfields, Asisten Komisioner Wan Abdul Bari Wan Abdul Khalid, berkata mangsa memanjat balkoni itu dikatakan tergelincir sebelum terjatuh dan dia juga mengalami masalah rumah tangga kerana sering bertengkar hingga isterinya mengurung diri sejak beberapa hari lalu.
“Ketika kejadian, isteri mangsa mengurung diri dalam bilik utama dan enggan bertemu suaminya walaupun mangsa beberapa kali memujuk supaya membuka pintu. Akibatnya mangsa keluar melalui balkoni kediaman itu untuk memanjat masuk ke bilik berkenaan melalui tingkap sebelum tergelincir dan terjatuh,” katanya ketika dihubungi, semalam.
Mayat dihantar ke Hospital Kuala Lumpur (HKL) dan kes diklasifikasikan sebagai mati mengejut, manakala saksi kejadian diminta tampil ke balai polis berdekatan bagi membantu siasatan.
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
natijah sebab ada 1 gadis jer dalam idop...
Oleh Rudy Syareme Sheriffudin dan Mohamad Danial Mohamad Saad
am@hmetro.com.my
DERITA...Ain cedera parah akibat melecur disimbah asid oleh bekas rakan sekerja ketika ditemui di HPP, semalam. GEORGETOWN: “Pada malam kejadian, lelaki itu datang dengan menunggang motosikal dan secara tiba-tiba dia menyimbah ‘air’ ke muka saya sambil mengejek, ‘padan muka hang’ sebelum beredar.
“Saya tersentak dan terkejut apabila muka dan badan menjadi sejuk seketika sebelum bertukar panas, selain seluruh kulit bertukar menjadi hitam seakan-akan terbakar dan membengkak,” kata seorang gadis yang parah akibat disimbah cuka getah di Taman Cenderawasih, Seberang Prai Selatan (SPS), 17 Oktober lalu.
Gadis berusia 21 tahun itu yang hanya mahu dikenali sebagai Ain, mendakwa menjadi mangsa balas dendam selepas menolak cinta lelaki terbabit.
Berikutan kejadian itu, hasratnya untuk mengikat tali pertunangan pada Aidiladha ini mungkin tidak kesampaian apabila hampir 70 peratus muka, tangan dan badannya melecur teruk.
Ain berkata, sebelum kejadian, dia bersama ibunya berada di rumah neneknya.
Ketika dalam perjalanan pulang ke rumahnya tidak jauh dari situ, kira-kira jam 11 malam, dia terdengar bunyi deruman enjin motosikal yang tiba-tiba berhenti berhampirannya sebelum seorang lelaki tiba-tiba menyimbah cuka getah ke arahnya.
Katanya, dia mengenali lelaki itu kerana sudah beberapa kali menyatakan hasrat untuk berkenalan tetapi ditolaknya secara baik.
“Sudah beberapa kali saya beritahu mempunyai teman lelaki, namun dia tidak dapat menerimanya. Malah, dia pernah mengekori saya setiap kali pergi dan balik kerja sehinggalah saya berhenti bekerja di kilang, Julai lalu.
“Saya ketika itu menjadi kerani mengenali lelaki berusia 26 tahun berkenaan yang menjadi operator di kilang sama di Nibong Tebal, April lalu. Dia pernah meluahkan perasaan cinta serta sayang kepada saya, tapi saya tak dapat menerimanya kerana bakal bertunang, bulan depan,” katanya ketika ditemui di Hospital Pulau Pinang (HPP) di sini, semalam.
Ain berkata, pada malam sebelum kejadian, lelaki itu ada menelefon kerana mahu menemuinya tetapi dia menolak dengan baik dan tidak menyangka lelaki berkenaan sanggup bertindak sekejam itu, sekali gus memusnahkan masa depannya.
“Sejurus disimbah cuka getah, saya berlari ke rumah ibu tidak jauh dari rumah nenek untuk meminta bantuan lalu dihantar ke Hospital Sungai Bakap sebelum dipindahkan ke HPP untuk rawatan lanjut,” katanya.
Berikutan itu, dia berharap lelaki terbabit dikenakan tindakan sewajarnya berikutan kesengsaraan dialaminya dan menyerahkan sepenuhnya kepada pihak polis.
Keluarga mangsa yang enggan dikenali berkata, kejadian itu mengejutkan mereka sekeluarga kerana tidak menyangka lelaki terbabit akan bertindak sekejam itu.
Sementara itu, Ketua Polis Seberang Prai Selatan (SPS), Superintendan Shafien Mamat berkata, pihaknya menahan suspek yang bekerja sebagai kelindan lori di rumahnya pada 20 Oktober lalu.
Beliau berkata, motif kejadian dipercayai berpunca daripada mangsa tidak membalas cinta suspek. Lelaki itu dipercayai menggunakan cuka getah yang diisi dalam kole untuk menyimbah ke muka dan badan mangsa.
“Mangsa cedera teruk akibat melecur pada bahagian mata putih dan muka sebelah kiri, kedua-dua lengan tangan serta bahagian belakang badan,” katanya.
Katanya, siasatan lanjut polis mendapati suspek positif dadah dan mempunyai tiga rekod jenayah lampau, dua membabitkan dadah serta satu kes jenayah.
Shafien berkata, siasatan dilakukan mengikut Seksyen 326 Kanun Keseksaan kerana mengakibatkan cedera parah dengan senjata yang membawa hukuman penjara sehingga 20 tahun dan boleh dikenakan denda atau sebatan.
Shafien berkata, suspek didakwa di Mahkamah Seksyen Butterworth hari ini.
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
mana p ejen nikah siam?
KULIM: Perbuatan mencurigakan beberapa lelaki warga asing yang sering memasuki rumah seorang jiran berstatus janda akhirnya terjawab apabila rumah berkenaan diperiksa Penguat kuasa, Pejabat Agama Daerah Kulim Kedah (PADK).
Pengadu terbabit yang enggan dikenali berkata, dia tidak tahan melihat lelaki dipercayai warga Bangladesh sering mengunjungi rumah janda itu setiap kali masuk waktu solat Jumaat, Maghrib atau Isyak.
“Ada ketikanya bukan seorang, malah beberapa orang lelaki Bangladesh masuk pada waktu yang sama membuatkan saya curiga,” katanya.
Menurutnya, dia bertambah curiga apabila mengetahui rumah itu dihuni seorang janda berusia 50 tahun, manakala anaknya tidak tinggal bersamanya.
Sementara itu, pemeriksaan Penguat kuasa PADK ke atas rumah itu pada jam 11.15 malam kelmarin menemui seorang wanita berusia 50 tahun dan pasangannya warga Bangladesh berusia 30 tahun di dalam rumah itu.
Bagaimanapun, anggota PADK terpaksa menunggu lebih lima minit sebelum wanita itu membuka pintu rumahnya dan mendapati seorang lelaki warga asing turut berada di dalam rumah itu dipercayai tiada hubungan muhrim dengan wanita itu.
Ketua Unit Penguat Kuasa PADK, Azmi Rejab berkata, mereka bertindak atas maklumat orang awam dan melakukan pemeriksaan ke atas rumah itu.
“Siasatan awal mendapati pasangan itu mengakui sebagai pasangan kekasih, manakala lelaki warga Bangladesh itu memberi alasan kepada penguat kuasa dia menghantar makanan kepada pasangannya.
“Bagaimanapun, ketika ditanya sama ada mereka akan berkahwin, lelaki itu menolak untuk berkahwin sebaliknya wanita itu bersungguh-sungguh berkata mereka akan berkahwin,” katanya.
Pasangan itu dipercayai bekerja di kilang yang sama dan mulai menjalinkan hubungan sejak beberapa bulan lalu.
“Mereka dibawa ke balai polis Lunas untuk membuat laporan dan akan disiasat mengikut Seksyen 9 (1)(2) Enekmen Jenayah Syariah Negeri Kedah 1988.
“Sabit kesalahan mereka boleh dihukum penjara setahun atau denda RM2,000 seorang,” katanya.
Monday, October 25, 2010
jadi ejen nikah siam, kolej, hartanah + etcs jelah...
Oleh Hamizah Badiran
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TERANIAYA...Manikavasagam (tiga dari kiri) dan Bernard serta sebahagian pekerja kilang terbabit menunjukkan laporan polis yang dibuat, semalam.
TERANIAYA...Manikavasagam (tiga dari kiri) dan Bernard serta sebahagian pekerja kilang terbabit menunjukkan laporan polis yang dibuat, semalam.
KLANG: Kira-kira 100 pekerja sebuah kilang membuat komponen aluminium di Meru, dekat sini, mendakwa terpaksa mengikat perut selain ‘dikejar’ pihak bank kerana tidak mempunyai wang untuk membayar hutang tertunggak selepas diberhentikan tanpa notis oleh pihak pengurusan syarikat awal bulan ini.
Mereka mendakwa berasa tertipu oleh majikan yang memberhentikan mereka tanpa notis, gaji dan wang caruman setiap bulan yang dipotong daripada gaji didapati tidak dicarum ke dalam akaun Kumpulan Wang Simpanan Pekerja (KWSP).
Wakil pekerja, Christian Berrnard, 35, berkata mereka dihalang dari memasuki kilang terbabit pada 8 Oktober lalu apabila pintu masuk berkunci dan tiada lagi operasi dijalankan.
Berikutan itu, katanya, 31 pekerja tempatan, 52 pekerja asing dan bakinya pekerja warga India yang bekerja di kilang utama di situ serta dua cawangannya di sini, hilang pekerjaan.
“Lebih dikesali, ada kalangan kami tidak menerima gaji sejak tiga bulan lalu. Bagi pekerja India, mereka mengalami kesukaran menyediakan persiapan untuk menyambut Deepavali.
“Kami merayu pihak pengurusan kilang bertanggung jawab atas masalah ini kerana kami tiada pendapatan lain untuk menyara diri dan keluarga,” katanya ketika ditemui di depan kilang itu di sini, semalam.
Pekerja, Rozita Yusof, 37, yang sudah tiga tahun bekerja di kilang itu sebagai kerani logistik kesal kerana diberhentikan kerja secara mengejut dan tanpa sebab munasabah.
“Majikan tak bayar gaji saya RM2,000. Macam mana saya nak tanggung lima anak yang memerlukan wang untuk perbelanjaan harian dan sekolah mereka selain saya semakin resah kerana memikirkan bagaimana hendak menyelesaikan pinjaman bank.
“Sekarang ini, bukan mudah untuk mencari kerja baru walaupun saya sudah cuba hadiri banyak temuduga,” katanya. Sehubungan itu, laporan polis sudah dibuat di Ibu Pejabat Polis Daerah Klang Utara pada 12 Oktober lalu.
Satu laporan juga dihantar kepada Pejabat Buruh pada 20 Oktober lalu meminta jabatan itu mengambil tindakan bagi membela nasib mereka.
Mengikut notis dikeluarkan Jabatan Insolvensi pada 14 Oktober lalu pula, urusan perniagaan membabitkan syarikat itu perlu dihentikan serta-merta selepas mengalami beberapa masalah.
Sementara itu, Ahli Parlimen Kapar, S Manikavasagam berjanji akan membawa masalah pekerja terbabit kepada pihak Kementerian Sumber Manusia hari ini.
jikalau dah kapiarq tuh, bukan islam jugaklah...
BN punca segala jenayah? yelah, budak dah haid lapar nak main... sebab tu wa cakap islam malaya bukan ori tapi modified!
bila bapak kandung nikahkan kanak2, sharizat bilang hak asasi budak2!
versi apa lu pakai? henti2 lah jadi balacik jew tuh...
http://kosmo.com.my/kosmo/content.asp?y=2010&dt=1026&pub=Kosmo&sec=Negara&pg=ne_04.htm
http://utusan.com.my/utusan/info.asp?y=2010&dt=1026&pub=Utusan_Malaysia&sec=Jenayah&pg=je_02.htm
Sunday, October 24, 2010
ct dijah ok jer... ketinggalan orang moden sebenarnya!?
Can women make the first move?
UNLESS you're Julia Roberts or Jennifer Aniston, you're bound to get rejected by a man at some point in your life.
Well, even Aniston was.
However, many women never have to deal with the anxiety of approaching a man, or the disappointment of being turned down, simply because they expect men to make the first move. But that is slowly changing.
First Impressions Image Academy founder and director Deborah Leong believes that more and more women are realising that it's acceptable to approach a man.
"In the past, women have avoided making the first move for fear that they may be looked as being cheap or easy. But that perception is slowly changing. Women are equal to men in all aspects, so why not in this?"
Leong says there is a vast difference in mindset between Malaysian women from rural areas and those from big cities.
"Most women in the Klang Valley are open-minded and accept that it is normal to make the first move. We are in a different era, gender roles are slowly changing."
She says the media and entertainment industry may be giving women a distorted view of the cat and mouse dating game.
"Shows like Sex and the City may give a false impression. Many times, the art of getting to know a man is made to look like it is a pursuit of physical intimacy.
"But this is not always the case, so people need to look at the intention behind the approach."
Having said that, Leong advises women to hold on to their values and not sell themselves cheap.
She believes women who are afraid to make the first move may be losing out.
"When you ask a man out for a date, the chances are 50-50. But if you don't even try, you've already lost before starting. It all boils down to confidence.
"Your mindset and mentality is important when striking up a conversation, whether with a taxi driver or potential mate."
The concept of approaching a man may be alien to most women but there are certain signals which can get the message across.
"Remember that you are in control of your signals, be it body language, eye contact or tone of voice.
"A woman who is hesitant to use words, can use actions to convey her intentions, like folding her arms, leaning forward or exposing certain 'parts of arousal'."
Serena Ng (not her real name), 33, is a successful engineer with above-average looks, but she still finds it demeaning for a woman to walk up to a stranger.
"I'm all for feminism and 'woman power' but I still can't bring myself to approach a guy. I suppose it's a combination of lack of self-confidence and pride."
To solve her dilemma, Ng uses body language instead.
"I must admit that when a guy catches my gaze, I drop subtle hints, like alluring eye contact, flipping my hair or pretending to walk past him to go to the bathroom. Usually, that gets the guy to come over to me.
"If that doesn't work, I leave my number on a napkin with the waiter or subtly drop it on his table."
Ng says sometimes it's not about striking up a conversation with the guy as much as having the power to get any guy she wants.
Are all men capable of reading signals?
"There are those who are clueless. Sad to say, their radar is insensitive.
"If you are sending signals and he still does not get it, he may be not interested.
"Either way, you should stop wasting your time and move on," says Leong.
After you've summoned enough courage to make the first move, she says, it's important to not appear desperate.
"If you've felt some chemistry, picked up on the triggers that could create interest and been able to introduce yourself, then let the conversation flow easily. Don't scare the guy away by elaborating on how many kids you want.
"Also, if he promises to call, don't desperately wait for the phone to ring. Remind yourself that if he doesn't call, it's his loss."
Navin Kumar, 26, believes it's high time Malaysian women made the first move.
"I don't think the scenario has changed much, men are still expected to make the first move when it comes to approaching the opposite sex.
"But I would really like to see that change. Most of my friends in their 20s and 30s also feel the same.
"Of course, we may brag about the fact that a girl found us interesting, but there's no malice intended.
"Personally, I would not think a proactive woman is cheap. In today's world, people are open-minded enough to accept the fact that a girl can walk up to a guy she finds interesting."
Navin, who is an engineer, says he was asked out for a drink by a female colleague once. They are now close friends.
"I can understand that some women are still hesitant, probably because they are still tied down by traditional views.
"But unlike women, men are not so guarded or hesitant when approached."
Read more: Can women make the first move? http://www.nst.com.my/nst/articles/24womenMen/Article#ixzz13IorbJoo
syabas sebab buat setan jadi angin...
Monday, October 18, 2010
nikah 4 sekali lebih gempak...
Saturday, October 16, 2010
JIKA SUDAH JODOH... BOLEH JADI BOMOH HILANGKAN KUDIS ULAR? OTHERWISE NABI PUN TAKDELAH DITAKDIRKAN DENGAN KHADIJAH!
Grandma finds love on Net
By Nadia Badarudin
nadia@nst.com.my
The Internet-savvy grandmother of 13 recently tied the knot after meeting her Mr Right on the social networking website.
"It must have been fated that I meet my husband through Facebook," she said of her marriage to 34-year-old Mohd Reduan Mohd Noor, on Oct 10.
"We decided on the date (10.10.10) to commemorate our big day as it is a special date."
It was Munah's second marriage, after her husband died five years ago, and the first for Reduan, from Kuantan, Pahang.
The couple's marriage, attended by their family members, was solemnised in a simple ceremony at Masjid Jamek Pekan Kodiang.
Asked about the age gap, Munah said it did not matter.
"Reduan and I are committed to each other. I am very attracted to his sincerity."
Reduan said he was happy that Munah's six children and grandchildren could easily accept him.
"Her maturity makes her special to me. I am happy that her family has accepted me as their stepfather and step-grandfather without any problems."
Munah became hooked on Facebook after she learnt about the site six months ago from her customers, mostly students, who frequent her cafeteria.
Read more: Grandma finds love on Net http://www.nst.com.my/nst/articles/24fboo/Article#ixzz12a2biR4F
SAPER SURUH ANTI POLIGAMI ISLAM...
2010/10/17
By Shanti Gunaratnam
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KUALA LUMPUR: The number of couples in sexless marriages is on the rise in Malaysia, said a consultant psychologist.
Datuk Dr Mat Saat Baki, who is also a sexologist, said one in 10 marriages in the country could be categorised as "sexless".
"Malaysian couples are putting off sex for a number of reasons.
"Some of the contributing factors could be work-related stress, financial problems, marital woes, sickness, emotional injuries as a result of fights and harsh words used, a suspicion that a spouse is having an affair, changes in body shape, boredom and childbirth among others.
"These couples might have had sex in the early years of their marriage but had put off intimacy for some reason or other."
He said, however, that this did not mean that such couples were having unhappy marriages.
"They are not miserable. Some of them are perfectly happy and contented with their lives."
He said this situation was not unique to Malaysia.
"About five per cent of the world's married couples are in a sexless marriage, which is when couples have sex 10 times or less in a year."
The sexual response cycle in a marriage, said Dr Mat Saat, could be divided into three categories -- hyper, where couples had sex four or five times a day; hypo, where they did it only once or twice a week; and less and avoidance, where spouses "avoid" each other.
The less and avoidance category is divided further into three sub-categories.
The first is where the couple never consummate their marriage; the second is where one or both spouses are homosexuals, and the last "secondary category" is where couples who use to enjoy sex have lost interest because of other factors.
"Most Malaysian couples who have gone off sex fall in the 'secondary category'."
Dr Mat Saat said for some couples, emotional attachment was enough.
"Some couples in sexless marriages do not want to seek help. They are also reluctant to walk away from their marriage."
But Malaysians are aware that there is help out there. Some have actually come forward for treatment.
"I have had patients as young as 18 and those in the very late 80s. Some have been in sexless marriages for a long time. Some come forward because they want to have children."
Dr Mat Saat said sexual intercourse in a marriage was only 10 per cent of the entire "ball game".
"In a marriage, there are four types of relationships. The first and ideal one should be love and sex, followed by love minus sex.
"And then, there is the sex without love and in some marriages, there is no love or sex.
"If couples are happy in sexless marriages, then it is okay. But when one spouse is not happy, that is when problems start to arise."
He said those who wanted help for their problems should not go to traditional healers or bomoh, but seek expert advice.
Read more: More marriages running out of sex http://www.nst.com.my/nst/articles/06sex/Article#ixzz12a0sLdj8
Friday, October 15, 2010
Thursday, October 14, 2010
jihad nafsu... era moden.
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aishah vs aida...
Saturday, October 9, 2010
nasib borneo masih terselamat...
get ready for luar biasa... sahut cabarannya.
http://mmail.com.my/content/51750-only-bold-can-cut-it-21st-century-najib
http://pekap.org.my/
http://bernama.com/bernama/v5/bm/newsgeneral.php?id=533736
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Razak-School-of-Government-UNIRAZAK/115515458468824?v=wall
Friday, October 8, 2010
akhirnya bazirkan wang rakyat jer...
di bangkok & tempat2 lain, berbeza ceritanya...
Oleh Mohamad Hussin
mohamad@hmetro.com.my
2010/10/08 SONGKHLA (Selatan Thailand): Pernikahan pasangan luar terutama rakyat Malaysia di Songkhla tidak akan diiktiraf jika menggunakan khidmat sindiket ‘nikah ekspres’ atau jurunikah tidak bertauliah kerana Majlis Agama Islam wilayah Songkhla (Mais) sudah mengeluarkan arahan hanya pejabatnya di sini, sebagai tempat pernikahan yang sah berkuat kuasa 16 September lalu.
Berikutan itu, pasangan yang bernikah selain daripada di pejabat Mais di Jalan Klonghaedi di sini, dianggap tidak sah.
Yang Dipertua Mais, Zakaria Saleh berkata, peraturan baru itu dikeluarkan kerajaan Thailand berikutan banyak aduan mengenai kekeliruan serta pemalsuan sijil nikah.
“Selepas ini, pasangan yang bernikah selain daripada di pejabat Mais, tidak sah dan tidak diiktiraf kerana hanya kami mengeluarkan sijil nikah sah dan asli.
“Kami menerima banyak aduan dan rungutan daripada pasangan yang tidak berpuas hati apabila mendapati sijil nikah mereka palsu kerana mereka bernikah menggunakan sindiket atau jurunikah tidak bertauliah,” katanya ditemui di sini, kelmarin.
Menerusi peraturan baru itu, semua pasangan luar yang mahu bernikah di Thailand tidak lagi dibenarkan melakukannya di daerah lain di selatan negara itu seperti Padang Besar, Danok, Patani, Sadao dan Narathiwat supaya pernikahan itu diiktiraf dan didaftarkan dengan Konsulat Malaysia di Songkhla.
Zakaria berkata, terdapat 30 jurunikah bertauliah Mais yang menjalankan tugas mereka di pejabat Mais setiap hari mulai jam 8 pagi hingga 4 petang.
Menurutnya, jurunikah yang menikahkan pasangan di luar pejabat Mais akan dikenakan tindakan tegas termasuk dipecat dan mengingatkan pihaknya serius mengendalikan isu pernikahan ini.
“Kami mendapati banyak masalah berlaku sebelum ini kerana tiada sistem sistematik menyebabkan banyak pihak keliru hingga ada pasangan terperangkap dengan sindiket pernikahan palsu.
“Sebelum ini ada pasangan datang untuk melaporkan perkahwinan mereka tetapi menghadapi masalah kerana sijil nikah palsu dan tidak diperakui Mais selain menyebabkan banyak kerumitan kerana kami terpaksa membuat siasatan kesahihan pernikahan mereka sebelum ia didaftarkan dengan Konsulat Malaysia di Songkhla,” katanya.
Selain itu, pasangan yang tidak cukup syarat bermastautin dalam jarak sekurang-kurangnya 90 kilometer (km) dari masjid Mais diwajibkan berurusan dengan Mais yang akan menentukan lokasi lebih sesuai bagi melangsungkan pernikahan.
“Hanya 30 jurunikah bertauliah dibenarkan menikahkan pasangan di masjid Mais. Jika ingkar, mereka akan dipecat serta-merta.
“Bagi pasangan yang tidak cukup syarat iaitu tinggal tidak sampai 90 kilometer dari sini, diwajibkan berurusan dengan Mais dan kami akan menetapkan lokasi sesuai sebelum menikahkan mereka,” katanya.
Menurut Zakaria, pihaknya tidak sewenang-wenangnya menikahkan pasangan sebaliknya meneliti dokumen pasangan kerana sijil nikah perlu diserah kepada konsulat Malaysia di Songkhla untuk pengesahan.
Sementara itu, Konsul Jeneral Malaysia di Songkhla, Mohd Aini Atan berkata, antara Januari hingga Mei lalu, pihaknya menerima 1,321 permohonan rakyat Malaysia yang berkahwin di situ.
“Daripada jumlah itu, rakyat Malaysia yang berkahwin sesama warganegara ialah 999 permohonan, pasangan Malaysia-Thailand (186), Malaysia-Indonesia (19), Malaysia-Pakistan (18) dan Malaysia-Bangladesh (dua permohonan).
“Tahun lalu, kami menerima 2,172 pengesahan pernikahan, 2008 (2,342 permohonan); 2007 (1,944); 2006 (845); 2005 (314); 2004 (55); 2003 (98); 2002 (67) dan 2001 (73).
sekolah harapan (zina bagus) VS kolej menang (nikah siam)...
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
memalukan... anti poligami lah lagi.
PUTRAJAYA: “Berdasarkan undang-undang Islam, kamu berdua wajib direjam sampai mati, bagaimanapun negara kita tidak melaksanakan undang-undang berkenaan.
“Tetapi, kamu kena ingat hukuman tetap akan ditentukan di mahkamah Allah iaitu di hari akhirat kelak, melainkan kamu betul-betul bertaubat dengan taubat nasuha,” kata Hakim Syarie Nasir Abdul Aziz di Mahkamah Tinggi Syariah, di sini, semalam.
Nasir berkata demikian ketika menjatuhkan hukuman denda RM3,000 atau 12 bulan penjara jika gagal membayar denda terhadap seorang lelaki dan wanita yang dituduh berkhalwat 1 September lalu pada jam 2.49 petang di Blok C-T14-UO8, Parcel 15-12A, Presint 15, di sini.
Hukuman terbabit dijatuhkan Nasir apabila tertuduh, Nur Hafidh Mansor, 27, dan pasangannya Badauyah Abdul Rahim, 27, mengaku bersalah kerana berkhalwat selepas pertuduhan dibacakan jurubahasa di hadapannya.
Kedua-dua mereka yang sudah berkahwin dan mempunyai anak menundukkan kepala serta kelihatan tenang ketika hukuman dibacakan.
Mereka dituduh melakukan kesalahan mengikut Seksyen 27 (a)& (b), Akta Kesalahan Jenayah Syariah (Wilayah Persekutuan) 1997 dan boleh dijatuhkan hukuman denda tidak lebih RM3,000 atau penjara tidak melebihi dua tahun atau kedua-duanya sekali jika sabit kesalahan.
Nasir berkata, tindakan pasangan itu menyedihkan kerana berlaku pada Ramadan, malah masing-masing sudah mempunyai keluarga dan perbuatan itu juga mencemar ikatan perkahwinan kerana berlaku curang terhadap pasangan masing-masing.
“Saya amat sedih dengan perbuatan pasangan ini kerana ia berlaku pada Ramadan...bulan yang sepatutnya umat Islam memperbanyakkan amalan kerana Allah menjanjikan lebih banyak pahala kepada umatnya.
“Lebih-lebih lagi pasangan sudah berkahwin dan ada tanggungjawab masing-masing. Malah, ia berlaku di kuarters kerajaan yang disediakan untuk memberikan keselesaan kepada mereka supaya lebih dekat dengan tempat kerja,” katanya sambil menggelengkan kepala.
Mengikut fakta kes, sepasukan anggota Penguat kuasa Agama (PPA) Jabatan Agama Islam Wilayah Persekutuan (Jawi) bertindak menjalankan pemeriksaan hasil aduan awam mengenai kes khalwat di rumah terbabit.